Telling Joe (!!!!!!!!!)

The night before the beta test, I asked Joe – “How do you want me to tell you?” In typical Joe fashion, he said, “Well, just call me when you find out.”

I thought about this and didn’t love that option, especially since he’d be at work the whole day. If it was bad news, I didn’t want to distract him from meetings by bawling my eyes out on the phone. If it was good news, it would be so lame to find out via a phone call in the middle of the work day. So we agreed that either way, I’d wait until he got home from work to share the results.

So on Friday afternoon, after the best phone call in the history of the world (my positive beta test), my mind immediately jumped to, “OMG now I get to tell Joe!!!” I was so grateful, and so happy, to finally be able to share some good news with him. It had been sad news for so long…  I wasn’t going to let this opportunity go to waste, no matter what.

I Googled online for pregnancy announcement ideas, but didn’t find anything I specifically wanted to replicate. So I got into my car and went to a few stores for inspiration, finally picking up a gift bag worth of goodies to share my surprise.

Here’s what was in the box:

  1. A positive home pregnancy test! I wanted to see the news for myself, so I POAS-ed. The double lines showed up straight away. Unbelievable!!
  2. A Georgia Tech onesie – from Joe’s undergrad alma mater
  3. Goodnight Moon – Joe’s favorite childhood book
  4. What to Expect When You’re Expecting – really for me, but part of the package too 🙂
  5. Framed pictures of our little embryo at Day 5, pre-transfer and then in my uterus
  6. Finally, a card – the front of the card had a straight line from “Point A” to “Point B,” and a bunny rabbit riding a bicycle in loops throughout the line, spelling out “Life.” I thought it was so perfect and appropriate for our relationship, especially the recent years of trying and failing to conceive.

I sat on pins and needles waiting for Joe to get home. Finally, I heard the garage door open – he was back! He came out of the car with a sad look on his face and said, “It’s bad news, isn’t it.”

Before I could say much of anything, he gave me a hug and told me not to worry – that we’d try again. I said, “I’m ok… but I went to Target and found a card that made me think of you.” Then I handed him the card. Inside, I had written a message that went something like, “I’m so glad to be with you, there’s no one else I’d rather go through this with, I love you no matter what.” So he read it, and was motioning to hug me again, but I said — “Wait, there’s a back to the card.” He flipped it over and I had written “P.S. I’m pregnant!! Are you ready to be a dad?!?”

That’s when he lost it. So many happy tears, all around. He said, “Are you serious?” And I said “Yes, they said it’s unmistakable. Pregnant.” (!!!) I let him open the box of gifts. It was one of the best moments of my life, to be able to tell him about our baby.


We took a walk around the neighborhood and simply reveled in our happy news. We had already planned a Friday date night at the Atlanta Botanical Gardens’ Chihuly Nights exhibit, so we spent the night strolling through the gardens, holding hands, and sharing in our little secret. (It was a good idea to plan a fun night ahead of time on results day… we figured it would either be the most joyful of dates, or a distraction from sad news. Thankfully it was the former!)

I’m so thankful. I feel blessed.